September 2025
Let me confess,
I’ve been having a writer’s block for a while.
In fact, I haven’t published anything in over a year.
I tend to strive for quality rather than quantity, but my perfectionism gets in the way of publishing. I’ve deleted three draft posts since starting my website.
Even thinking of a topic to write about ‘life’ was difficult. Was I even qualified to share my lessons on life — what could I contribute that others cannot?
And so in thinking of what I could write about for my post #10 on here (hooray!), the title kind of gives it away.
“I don’t have all the answers, and that is okay.”
There seems to be a societal expectation that you’re meant to figure all of it out as you enter adulthood. These common questions arise:
- What should I study at university?
- How do I build and maintain relationships?
- What do I want to do after studying?
- How should I live my life knowing that our time is short?
- Where do I want to live?
- How do I accept that I’m not as important as I think I am?
- How do I fit adult responsibilities in my life?
No one fully knows, yet we seem like we do (including myself). I’m just trying to keep it all together no matter how well I’ve followed through with my decisions. In fact, it’s more healthier to admit that we don’t know than misdirected confidence.
At the same time, I’m perplexed by how some people can make large financial commitments of over half a million dollars debt at a young age, knowing that it is a decades-long commitment early in their career. Feeling pressure to do it all. Yet, many could have said the same about my story of how I lived and travelled around the world as I founded Building Memorii to provide humanitarian assistance to those in need, and ended up as a lawyer before my mid 20s.
I guess it’s human nature to compare ourselves with others, coming from a place of inspiration, where people would also look towards our character with the same admiration. And hopefully this should bring about ownership of life, not needless intellectualisation of the questions posed above.
We can all strive to be the better version of ourselves by living an examined life.
I do think it’s meaningful to live life by a set of values that you can leave behind. For me, that is the purpose of Building Memorii. Segmented into three parts:
- Forming deep connections with people and community (People)
- Being there for those raw moments of humanity (Purpose)
- Seeing the beauty of the world (Travel)
All in all, I’m sorry to say that I don’t have all the answers. And that’s okay. Neither will you. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t keep living life to its fullest. We’re just doing the best we can with our time in this world :]
Keep on swimming with the current!